If I could choose my kids' friends and spouses, would I do it? Gregory's oldest friend in the world is Emma (daughter of Alex and Melissa -- not pictured). He's known her is entire life. I like to say that Emma was the inspiration for Gregory!! The day Emma was born, Gary and I went to the hospital. I held her, and then nine months later -- almost to the day -- Gregory was born. lol When Gregory and Emma were younger, they talked a lot about getting married when they grew up. It seemed to just be a foregone conclusion. Melissa and I tried not to encourage or discourage, but to just rejoice in their friendship. Now that they're older (Emma is almost 10, and well, you know, Gregory is nine month younger), they talk less and less about getting married. I'm not sure if they still assume that to be true, and are just embarrassed to say it, or if they really aren't thinking about it anymore. I would love it if Gregory married Emma!
Emma and Gregory
Ruthie had a great time this weekend, playing for hours with Marshal (son of Mo and Amy). How fun would that wedding be for me, if they grew up and decided to get married?
Marshal and Ruthie
(also pictured: Mary and Silas)
But does that really happen? We all love to talk about it, but do you actually know anyone who has a child who married the child of a good friend? And now, I'm back to my question: Would I want to choose for them, if I could? More than anything, I want my kids to be happy and healthy, and I want them to grow up to be productive and contributing citizens. I like to think that I know (or will know) the best path for them to reach those goals (of mine). Sometimes I'm tempted to think that if I could always choose for them, then they wouldn't have to worry, and could just be happy. I know, though, that life is about carving out your own way. Making choices, and living with success and failure, is the way to learn and grow and be happy! And while I know I would dance an extra little happy dance at the wedding of Gregory and Emma, Ruthie and Marshal, or Mary and Silas, what will really make me happy will be seeing the happiness that comes to them from creating their own paths and making their lives what they dream them to be!